A note to all parents

A note to all parents

By Barbara Thomas

  I would like to share this with all parents, especially mothers, whose offspring have stopped communicating often with no reason. Apparently it’s called “Ghosting”, ignoring phone calls, texts, and letters as if we do not exist.

 This is my story, for 53 years I have never missed sending a birthday card to my only daughter. But for several years I have never received any response from her. This year was different, it began at Easter time I had posted an Easter tide card and in the envelope I sent her a stamped addressed enveloped with the hope that she would contact me as she had just become a grandmother for the first time and I also became a great grandmother for the first time, something to celebrate or so I thought. I waited and time passed, nothing came.

 So now I have come to the conclusion at last, how long do I keep hurting myself. So this month being her 53rd birthday, and as l said I had never missed sending a card. This time was different, I decided not to send her a card, or wish her happy birthday on Facebook. It was time to stop holding her hand, theoretically, she would now be on her own. Although I will never stop loving her, I am not prepared to play these mind games. So for all you parents especially Mothers who are still suffering and playing out their children’s mind games, let go of their hands and walk away.

Then we can only pray that the shock of the parent letting go just may bring them to the conclusion that something very dear is missing from their lives. GOOD LUCK…..

Copyright Barbara Thomas